Sexting (sending texts with sexual overtones or suggestions) has gained popularity among teens who believe that there is nothing wrong with it. It is justified as “harmless fun”, and that no borders are being crossed. They see sex more in terms of the act, as opposed to the lures that are attached to it, and how quickly those seeds lead to the actual action.
Lust Begins In The Mind and Heart
“But each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.”James 1:14-15
Sin, especially sexual sin of any kind, begins with a seed. In this case, it’s the suggestive speech of sexting and the lure of the “forbidden” that causes this type of sin to germinate.
While most teens believe that their actions are harmless, or they are just begin flirtatious, they don’t realize how quickly those words turn into actions. That “seed” that has been sown by words is often meditated upon. It’s difficult to read a text of this kind and not experience arousal at a mental picture that is being mapped out. Seeds thought about become rooted in minds and hearts, which then turn into actions all too quickly.
“The mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace.”Romans 8:6
Sexting As Harmless Fun?
Is it? Whether you realize it or not, you are creating mental images in another person’s mind. You are enticing them with sexual images and acts that they will meditate on. Even if you have no intention of carrying out these acts, you are treading on a dangerous path.
Does this person know your intentions? They may, but you cannot guarantee that they will not act on it. Even if it is over the internet, they live far away, don’t have any personal details, etc. it is still harmful, foolish, and dangerous. There are so many predators out there that are looking for the innocent. Many of them don’t take “no” for an answer.
They can hunt you down, and thanks to the internet, they can stalk you either online or find you, and can spread rumours.
If the person is known, how can you be certain they won’t act on their impulses? You are telling them about things that you would like to do to them. Eventually, they may look for a release, and it may be your teen. You can find yourself at the very least in an awkward situation, or potentially a victim of rape.
Is it worth playing that game?
Most teens don’t see the danger in it because they believe that nothing bad will happen to them. Many don’t think beyond the immediate into the consequences that their actions may have on another person.
Furthermore, their actions aren’t edifying to God because they describe something that He designed for married couples to enjoy. Also, you are causing another human being to stumble in their faith journey.
Do you really want to be responsible for that? Remember, we are answerable to the Lord whom we will give an account to.
Laura Ann Heaton Gray will discuss the dangers of sexting in greater detail, and how to inform your children of the multiple dangers associated with this activity from the spiritual to the physical.
She will further help parents by teaching you how to protect your children from sexting on their phones. There are numerous apps wherein parents can view their teen’s communications.
But That’s An Invasion Of Privacy!
Not really. Granted, there are controlling parents out there, and yes, that would be an invasion of privacy. However, for the vast majority, if your purpose is to protect your children, then it is not an invasion of privacy. It just feels like it.
You may hear your child balk that it’s unfair because they don’t realize the potential danger. To them, it feels like a trust issue over something done to protect them. However, if you present them with the reasoning that it is to protect over snoop, most children will quickly back down.
They may not like it, but they will back down.
This article and many more in our next issue coming out on March 26, 2019!