Why are non-believers befuddled by this “sin” statement?
To a non-believer, it seems like a contradiction. How can you love someone- truly love someone- but not be accepting of a sinful lifestyle? We live in a world that can be summed up in one phrase, “I’ll do my thing, and you can do your thing. Don’t judge.”
Yet, there is a one who judges our actions, our thoughts, and our character. It is His opinion that matters most. If we read our Bible, we learn that we can’t just do whatever we want, and it’s for good reason. When scripture tells us that the wages of sin is death, it means more than just eternal damnation.
Everything that we do has a consequence whether we want to acknowledge it or not. You can be promiscuous and think that your lifestyle will never catch up to you, but you are only deceiving yourself.
If you don’t get pregnant, then you may suffer from several diseases. If that doesn’t manifest, then there are the emotional consequences to deal with. This choice brings baggage into what could be healthy relationships in terms of an inability to trust, hurt of past break-ups, low self-esteem, etc. This leads to death of your soul, and of your emotions, among other things.
It can prevent you from feeling as if there is a God who truly loves you, because all you’ve ever known is the feeling of being used. All you’ve ever known is a lustful type of love- one that gratifies the flesh, but leaves you with an emptiness inside because it is void of human connection.
In this case, loving the sinner is having empathy for a person who may not be happy with who they are. It is helping them realize that love isn’t found in others, but in a God who loves you without condition. There is nothing you can do to separate yourself from the love of Christ, and that very same love will fill you up. It will make you whole, and you will feel worthy.
This is power unto itself- the moment that you know that you have worth. Once you grasp onto this reality, what people say doesn’t matter anymore. They just become people who you internally cry, “liar” to.
Hating the sin is about disliking the destruction that it brings into a person’s life. It is loving someone else with such a Christ-like love that you want them unselfishly to be happy despite themselves.
And most people out there don’t know the truth about Jesus or about themselves. They don’t know why what they are doing leads to an erosion of their soul. They don’t understand the emptiness they feel… and it might not be an awareness that they are empty. It can sometimes feel as if something is missing. That they are incomplete.
Andrea Marino describes what love is like as a Christian and how to walk it out. It isn’t easy to love others when they are behaving at their worst, but that’s exactly what Jesus did. She discusses further the concept of love the sinner, but hate the sin.
Andrea also talks about how Christ loves us no matter what we do. Humans may judge others by “degrees of sin”, but God doesn’t. There is no degree of severity. Sin is sin. But to become whole- and what we sometimes miss- is that all we have to do is ask for forgiveness and let it go. It’s really that simple.