Ever had one of those moments when you thought to yourself, “Why did I ever say that?” These events are usually followed by a deep period of regret- especially if the recipient feels upset or is offended. Do we really mean to offend, or is it simply, “A slip of the tongue”.
How can you watch what you say in the heat of the moment?
Anger and sarcasm are the most powerful, yet destructive tools we possess. Scripture tells us that life and death are in the power of the tongue. Indeed we can either lift someone up or tear them down with our speech.
We grow up and are taught the rhyme that says, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Yeah, it’s true, but only if you have high self-esteem. Realistically, if you have high self-esteem, kids aren’t bothering you anyway, because what’s the use? You won’t engage, anyway, so there is no fun in it.
Also, people with high self-esteem tend to attract others. We want to be around people who are confident and upbeat. These aren’t the kids who are getting teased, though. It’s the ones with low self-esteem, and those words hurt.
Words often leave worse scars than being beaten up
Being in a physical altercation hurts for a season, and then (most times) we heal. People who hurt us physically can be charged cause we have wounds that are visible. But what about those invisible wounds that no one else sees? Don’t they matter?
The reality is that words leave long-lasting scars to people who internalize them. Even if they aren’t internalized, sometimes it’s hard to let it go- especially if someone is criticizing you, regularly.
The sting of words is something that leaves no outward scars, but it something that people can carry around for a lifetime. We can’t see the pain inflicted by careless words, but they are certainly felt by the recipient.
If you knew how much damage your words had on another human being, would you be more mindful?
But it’s more than just being mindful…
Scripture (Matthew 15:10-20) warns us that it is not what goes into a man that defiles him, but what comes out of his mouth. If we choose not to meditate on what is not God-honoring around us, it has no impact. It just goes on through. However, if we have a thought, or are around corrupt people, we can find our thoughts changing. We can end up becoming more like them if we don’t watch ourselves.
Furthermore, meditating on certain thoughts that are not of God has a way of entering our hearts and corrupting us. It is what we think becomes a part of us. It takes root and changes our character. It is out of our heart and back through our lips that causes us to defile ourselves, and thus, hurt others.
Kathy McBroom discusses how our words not only affect others but can change our future. She warns people about the company that they keep, what they watch, and what they expose themselves to.
Kathy outlines what we need to keep our lips and hearts pure so that we don’t hurt others… and don’t end up affecting our own future by a negative confession.
You see, if your words aren’t hurting others, they may end up costing you your future. If you believe that words have power, and they can tear others down, imagine what the wrong confession has on your future.
Learn how to tame the tongue in our upcoming issue of Faith Filled Family Magazine coming out on January 27, 2020!