Title: 7 Ways to be her Hero
Author: Doug Fields
Price: $15.99 (USD)
Reviewed by Michelle C. Danko
The book, 7 Ways to be her Hero, is a book geared towards men and how they should treat their wives. It discusses the “one heart” principle- (as outlined in Genesis) that when a man and woman marry, the two become one in the eyes of the Lord, and therefore share, one heart. The book delves into many behaviors that can destroy a marriage: selfishness, business, the ineffectual use of sarcasm, belittling/condescension, poor communication, and selfish sexual touching. It gives insight into common male behavior and how men treat their wives. The book then discusses how men should treat their wives: with attentiveness, being thoughtful, small gifts, encouraging words, sheparding their wives, serving their wives with a servant’s heart, and how to pursue your wife. The main goal: to gain and retain your wife’s love for you, to strengthen your marriage, and … for better sex for both of you!
Even though the book is geared towards men and not women, I found it to be insightful on both sides. Doug Fields really related to what women want in their husbands, and guides men as to why they should seek this kind of connection, and how to do it. His discussions are honest, frank, and sprinkled with a bit of humor in areas.
He does, however, make men out to be a bit “piggish” in his assessments. He focuses in on a man’s desire for sex from his wife, and the negative aspects of being a man. He discusses in the early chapters the benefits of some of these attributes such as men’s competitive drive, but looses it towards the end when he begins to delve into areas of sexual immorality. He discusses a group of men riding on their bikes, and one man cat-calling a woman who was inappropriately attired. He doesn’t make mention that men are visual, that their vision in that context is to be channeled to their wives, etc. It is seen as more humorous in nature as is all sexual references.
While he discusses non-sexual touching, the book is loaded with sexual references throughout. While the purpose is to grab a man’s attention, you have to wonder if it is completely necessary to turn a man’s attention to sex while knowing that even as he reads his mind is probably flooded with sexual thoughts that he may not be able to do anything about.
Men will like the book. It is very direct, and simple. It reads like a “how to” manual on how to fix/improve your marriage. It identified the issue, and then tells you how to solve it. Women will like it because his assessments are perfectly correct as to what women want in their husbands. It is a very basic book, with very basic information, but very poignant information.
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