How to extinguish a party spirit and walk away

So, you might ask, what can you do about a party spirit? How can you overcome the desire to indulge the flesh and carnality, and to seek the approval of mankind?

First, I think you need to ask yourself a basic question: are you having parties to get to know people better, or are you partying? The latter is a verb which indicates something you do for yourself, alone or in the company of people who want to be seen by their peers as having desirable social status. Well, the reality is that in God’s economy, you must first “…offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.

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“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12 1-2).

Again, the theme of conforming to the world or trying to be like all other lost human souls is presented as a futile endeavor, which, in the end, destroy their bodies and souls, possibly to eternal death – agony and hopelessness — in Hell. With such a great price to pay for actions that only offer a moments pleasure, why bargain with your soul?

Instead, trust in Him who, “before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you…” You were originally set apart to God to perform His will here on this earth, and after this present world we live in comes to an end, be in fellowship with Him for eternity in Heaven.

So if you want to hang out with the best crowd, hang out with your Father in Heaven, and ‘fellowship’ with Him, and others who love Him. There is no harm, and only much gain that comes from honoring the Holy Spirit in all you do.

I’m sure that many of you may secretly think, if you were to be honest, that living the “straight and narrow” is not only hard, but tedious and boring. However, this is where our mindset needs to be changed by the Holy Spirit, and brought to realize that all the “…promises God has made, […] are “Yes” in Christ. And so through him the “Amen” (or, “it is so”) is spoken by us to the glory of God. (2 Corinthians 1:20). God loves us very much, and wants to “…be gracious to us and bless us and make his face shine on us— so that [His] ways may be known on earth; [His] salvation among all nations. (Psalm 67:1-2). (Amplified, 1987)

Isn’t it interesting just how much God loves us? It’s a love that is very deep and impossible to totally fathom. He only wants the best for us, even if it doesn’t sound so good to us at the time.

He is our Heavenly Father, and like we imperfect adults who are parents, knows what’s best for his children. He wants the best for us and will give us what we need. “For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome.” (Jeremiah 29:11)

I find it kind of ironic that the Rolling Stones, probably with no knowledge of what they were saying, said, “You can’t always get what you want. But if you try sometimes, you just might find you’ll get what you need.” (Jagger, 1969) Even those who are worldly realize that what you want isn’t always the best thing for you.

The world will not give us anything that leads to life, unless they have the life of God in them. So don’t be deceived: “You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God.

Or do you think Scripture says without reason that the jealously longs for the spirit he has caused to dwell in us?” (James 4:4-5) It should be clear by now, that if you want real social status, do as Jesus said, and don’t live for this world, which “…was subjected to frustration, not by its own choice, but by the will of the One who subjected it, in hope that the creation itself will be liberated from its bondage to decay and brought into the freedom and glory of the children of God.” (Romans 8:20-21)

What those who only live for this world do not realize is that the very things they worship and seek after will only fade away. And when they die, as the saying goes, “You can’t take it with you.” Rather, live for the Kingdom of Heaven, which promises life eternal and full of joy, where “…never again will they hunger; never again will they thirst. The sun will not beat down on them; nor any scorching heat. For the Lamb at the center of the throne will be their shepherd; he will lead them to springs of living water. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes’ (Revelations 7:16-17).

I don’t know about you, but this sounds like a win-win situation to me. Eternal happiness, joy and peace; no sickness, no drama, no betrayal by those you thought were your friends, but only used you for their personal gain. No need for anything to alter your mind or your perception of the world around you. No need to be in the right group, or have the proper status among your peers.

I think God and those who serve him, especially in the Kingdom of Heaven, where life to the fullest that will last forever beats anything this world has to offer, any day, any way.

Do you want to be part of the party? Or do youjust want to party? I would strongly advise you to be a part of the Lamb’s (Jesus’) party. I hear it’s going to be an incredible one, with Jesus and the rest of the Holy Trinity in attendance.

The cost of admission: give your earthly life to Him, and learn to give rather than get. The angel of the Lord said it best: “Hallelujah! For our Lord God Almighty reigns. Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory! For the wedding of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready. Fine linen, bright and clean, was given her to wear.” (Fine linen stands for the righteous acts of God’s holy people.)

Then the angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the wedding supper of the Lamb!” And he added, “These are the true words of God.” (NASB, 1960 through 1995)

This world — and the one who has been given temporary charge of it – does not deliver as promised. It is slowly decaying; there is always sickness, death, wars, killing of innocent people for the cause of ‘Holy Wars.” Many people in this world are down and out and homeless.

Jesus promised us “You will always have the poor among you” and this life has constant troubles. All scripture references are from the New International Version, unless otherwise stated.


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Jagger, M. K. (1969). You Can’t Always Get What You Want. London, England: Decca Records.

NASB. (1960 through 1995). New American Standard Bible. La Habra, CA 90631: The Lockman Foundation.

NIV. (1973 to 2011). New International Bible. Grand Rapids, MI 49530: Zondervan Press.

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