Have you found yourself saying the following about your spouse/significant other:
- “If I love him/her harder he/she will change.”
- “if I’m patient someday he/she will see my worth,”
- “it’s my fault he/she treats me this way.”
All these thoughts and many more can be signs of a toxic relationship. Surviving toxic relationships can be difficult and will take change in both parties to heal. In some cases it may even require leaving altogether. How do we recognize if we are in a toxic relationship? What are the warning signs? Are toxic relationships only within the family? Can it ever get better?
In this month’s issue Helen Murray addresses just that. Through scripture, some personal experience, and heartfelt love towards others, Helen helps us identify what a toxic relationship is, who can fall victim, and some of the best ways to handle it. In Helen’s article, we will find tools for helping the situation to heal if it can and the practical advice of when to leave, as well as examining some of the types of toxic behaviors one can encounter. Through her experience and insight, Helen gives us hope that there is life beyond the abuse, healing in Jesus, and an answer to ending the cycle.
As someone who endured more than one toxic relationship, I was greatly encouraged by Helen’s strength, faith, and practical applications of boundaries. Her insight and empowering take on how to handle anger, frustration, and love in a toxic relationship is a vivid reminder that we are not alone, there is help, and a God who loves and values us.
Luke 12:6-7 (Esv)
Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows